Have you had incredible success while going about it in your own wildly unique ways, achieved every goal you ever had, and yet there is a part of you deep inside that is screaming out to do something fucking awesome? I’m Chris Frolic, good to meet you.
Once a best-selling DJ as “Anabolic Frolic”, then bending minds as a comedy stage hypnotist, and a tech co-founder with no diploma, I’m all about flipping scripts. Now, aiming to solve global challenges like climate change with my crew of exceptional weirdos, the Frolic 100. I’ve realized my unique past struggles and successes are what will make it possible to make a difference.
I use this website to share my story, offer extremely powerful tools you can use to answer the burning problems you’re too scared to admit to anyone, and find my people. Are you one of them? Join me and let’s do something amazing.
I’m trying something different this week. Instead of writing “What do I need to hear most right now?” I’m writing this article for 1 person in the Frolic 100. This is for Shannon. Shannon in an email to me had shared about the challenge of being on social media while creating a coaching business. This is what i was inspired to write. There’s a business metaphor that I love called “blue ocean...
A colleague once offered some constructive feedback, they said “You sure want me to like you” in response to one of my posts. I can see why they thought it, I write a lot about myself, my experiences, the things I’ve learned. The thing is, they had it wrong. It wasn’t that I wanted them to like me, it’s that I wanted to like myself. Almost everything I write about for the Frolic...
I was asking myself what’s a way I can support the Frolic 100 get 2022 started in a big way and I have decided to host a Zoom where you can “Ask Me Anything”. Would you like help creating your most profitable year ever? I will help you with mindset. I will help with tools and strategy. Would you like for me to tell you whether I think something is a good idea or not? I will tell you whether I...
Every time I think about how I chose to release my most recent book, of not needing to do anything more with it, of trusting that it is now out in the world doing its work, the word that comes to mind is “liberated”. By changing the rules of how a book is released, and what my expectations are, I liberated myself from all sorts of pressures of what I’m “supposed” to or “should” be doing now...
Something I felt very strongly back in the 1990s when I was part of the newly created rave scene was a feeling that we were onto something bigger. That we had the ability to change the world. When I speak to older ravers these days and bring this up, they enthusiastically respond with a “Oh my god, yes!” as they remember that feeling. Unfortunately, that moment in time passed. And then I realized...
I was chatting with a reader of my recent book (Unorthodox Success, Secret Shame) and they shared something with me. “Reading about you wrestling with your shame made me reflect on where I had shame in my own life. I realized I’ve been too ashamed to admit I’ve been in an abusive relationship. I was too ashamed to admit it to anyone, including myself. Once I realized that, I left my boyfriend.”...
I’ve realized the words I have the hardest time hearing are the ones I want to hear the most. Of the impact I made simply by showing up and being me. Every day I find ways to do that, but I’ve begun to notice if you actually remark that you were impacted the way I wanted, I have a hard time hearing it. I have a very re-enforced habit of self-validation. I don’t need anyone to tell me I’m being...
My youngest, Connor, had a pretty clear idea of how he wanted to dress for Halloween this year. An anime inspired “Cat Maid”. My wife, Robin, helped him create the costume. And then in was time to take it to school for Halloween this past Friday. Connor was happy and excited to wear it, and of course there’s the risk of what can happen at school around the other kids. Later that...
This past week I was reconnecting with a colleague and she shared her difficulty with scheduling creative time. “I find I fill it with busy work, not particularly creative”, she said. I realized in that moment I never schedule creative time. I simply allow myself enough free, unscheduled time, to seize the creative spark when it hits. For example, today, as I’m writing this, I have a single thing...
This past month I was volunteer part of a team putting on a large personal growth event. “Chris, you’re an amazing speaker. When you’ve spoken in the past, you’ve always had the biggest turnouts. You said you want to increase your impact at the event so we’ve come up with an opportunity for you to do that by coordinating the speakers for this event”, I was asked. Yes, “on paper”, it makes sense...
(Chris’ note: This article was hard for me to write and share. I’ve realized I can be vulnerable about all sorts of challenges in my life, past and present, but the one thing I get scared to do is talk about my successes. I know this is fueled partly by my complex relationship with money, how I value myself, and societal lessons that no one likes a braggart. And at the same time I...
My wife and I have been making incredible progress in our couples’ therapy. We started it not to save or repair our relationship, but to “up level” it. Both of us had a goal, of imagining 5 years from now looking back and realizing we had grown in ways that we didn’t know possible when we started. We’re a year into the weekly therapy, and things are starting to snowball. I didn’t realize how much...
I can’t believe it but this is the 200th article I’ve written for my blog (now the Frolic 100). Committing myself to writing once per week to share my wisdom with the world was the very first step I took in my recovery from my imposter syndrome crisis. My website (chrisfrolic.com) was a literal blank page for several years after I left the stage hypnosis business. I sat in the...
I think the single biggest thing people would be surprised to learn about me is how introverted I am. It flies in the face of what they generally know about me or how they’ve experienced me. I feel like I am a pendulum that can swing to extreme ends. I can be the guy on stage, literally conducting the energy in a room of thousands of people, and I can be the same person who can spend weeks at...
“You’re polarizing, but I’m really into you”, I was told this by someone in my circle recently. They didn’t mean it as an insult, and I didn’t take it that way, but it was an interesting comment to be on the receiving end of. I sat with it for a moment, and then I realized how OK I was hearing it. There is nothing I’d want to do different about how I show up these days. I find moments of feeling...
This summer my family was invited to stay for a weekend at the summer camp my oldest kid normally goes to. Because of covid they’ve been unable to operate as normal for 2 summers. As a way to do something, they invited a handful of families to enjoy their property, in a socially distant manner. I haven’t done anything or gone anywhere since covid has started, so this was a really nice offer that...
I’ve been very intentional about how I refer to the expectations of my book. I had a “release”, not a “launch”. The book has a 10 year mission. I will evaluate its impact and success only after 10 years. I’ve asked readers to share the book with the people in their lives that will benefit from reading it. I’m giving the book the space it needs to let that...
So I just completed an incredible achievement. I published a new book. In it, are the best lessons I have to share about how I overcame feeling like a fake. It’s literally the book I wish someone had given me. I couldn’t be more proud of it. I’m sure it will help others. It culminated with a book “release” Zoom hosted by me and attended by dozens of people. I’m equally as proud of that Zoom, and...
I recently shared a fear of mine that I experience every single time I host a Zoom event. There’s a moment, maybe for a few minutes, as I sit ready but before people connect, that I wonder if anyone will show up. That I’ve become aware of this voice is progress. That I speak it is progress. AND it is still present. It was present last week during my book release. Dozens of people...
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I’ve been pondering the difference between what it means to “launch” something as opposed to “releasing” it. When I think “launch”, I think of a rocket being propelled into space. When I think of “release”, I imagine an animal, that has been nursed to health, and then released into the world. Both are impressive events. There’s something awesome about watching that rocket, but...
I recently updated my website to add Unorthodox Success, Secret Shame. I now have 2 books listed. Seeing multiple titles like that listed has made it really sink in that I’m an author. There’s no denying it. Doing one of anything can be a one-off or fluke, but when you’ve done it multiple times, it’s definitely “a thing”. I’ve gotten so much pleasure simply from seeing those 2 titles there, even...
Release Date: August 10, 2021. Available through Amazon. Also, I’ll be hosting an INVITATION ONLY book release Zoom on August 9, 2021 at 1pm Eastern / 10am Pacific. I don’t host Zooms very often and they’re always memorable. Hear me tell the powerful story of how this book came to be.Hear about my own debilitating imposter syndrome, something we all suffer forms of.I’ll share my...
Most traditionally published books’ successes are measured with how well they sell within their first 9 months of release. Just like with movies, it’s seen as either a hit or a flop immediately. Most publishers and agents won’t even speak to you about publishing your work unless you have a built-in audience of social media followers (hundreds of thousands or bigger) that you can sell your book to...